I couldn’t help but share this enlightening post from my corporate blog. I thought these people ceased to exist or maybe he just missed his bus to the 17th century.
“Disclaimer: It’s purely my view and it’s not to hurt anyone (especially girls).
Dupatta – A thing which is discovered to maintain our Indian Tradition even when most of our girls turned to a Modern era. (Definition created by me :)) Just imagine a girl with a ‘Half-Saree’. Will anyone stare at that girl for a long time other than her face? Because it’s our tradition. I am not against Churidar’s, but how today’s girls (not all of them, a few are exceptional) are using it. The purpose of the Dupatta is not at all followed. All of them wear it around their necks. Is it the purpose for which it was found? And most of them use it to cover their face to maintain their complexion. Can’t they use umbrella to prevent it other than using the same Dupatta’s. I saw a girl, she was wearing Chudi and while walking her Dupatta slides and she adjusted it and this happens for nearly two or three times and on the next time when it slides, she opens her handbag and placed her Dupatta inside it and continued her journey. Really it hurts me. If you are not dressed up properly and if some guys misbehave with you, you have no rights to blame them. If you are perfect and some one misbehaves you have a right to blame them for their crime. When you are not perfect, how can you blame the others for being imperfect?
Guys, who are reading this, please do say your friends, relatives or Girl fiends to wear the Dupatta properly to avoid a lot of confusions in the future.
And girls, who are reading this, please use the Dupatta for its purpose and not for Style or fashion. This article is not to blame girls but its came out of my social anger towards the society. For the girls who use it for the purpose deserves a Royal Salute from everyone.”
To which I replied:
Its not in the dress … it’s in the mind!!
Thanks for all your comments or against my views. But in the post i didnt say anything about myself. Just think this, in the road side, if some girls are wearing like this, and guys (not all, but most) will be seeing them with out taking their eyes, even though the girls wont feel it and adjust the same. It raised my anger.. There is a famous quote “Kutram seithavana vida, seiya thoondunavanukku than thandanai athigam”. Hope u can get that. I am not here to argue against your comments.Also i dont want to get into detail. If you are not ready to accept it, i cant do anything. Its purely my view and it will never change because of your so and so against comments
I won’t have argued with your more coz our thought process is totally different and i don’t expect you to change your views … but the quote you mentioned in Tamil really got me started. (Of course I asked for translation)
You know it is because of this mental attitude women are still suffering molestation/eve teasing. The same reason why people never sympathize with molested girl and often blame her … but who did it actually!!!
No one can force anyone to do things without their will. Gals don’t ogle at men in lungi tied till their knees … do they?
Just because some guy bursting with hormones decides not to limit his gaze only to face, mind you a duppata will never be helpful.
You can keep your views with you… but promoting it without understanding the pyschology behind it, is what I don’t accept.
He received many such comments.
I seriously thought we are moving into an enlightened era, until I came upon this post